Transgender Day of Visibility

Some trans people get uptight about transgender visibility.

On one hand, I can see where they’re coming from. They might be closeted or stealth, and worried that increased visibility might out them. Or they might be struggling to put a traumatic past or painful transition behind them, and not appreciate the reminders of what they went through.

I try to be sympathetic towards that, though I feel like it’s a short-sighted position to adopt.

On the other hand, I think it’s more important to fight bigotry and familiarize allies with how to help us, than engage in a fruitless and frankly pretty hurtful campaign to force out trans people back into the closet. What might seem like the best idea in the short run, is actually playing right into bigots’ hands. The info is out there on how to spot us. It’s done. Now it’s time to protect ourselves and each other by normalizing what we are, not by re-hiding it.

I also can’t help but think, somewhat selfishly, of what I would have done without the examples of out trans guys. Perhaps not survived.

If you’re out there, whether you want to be seen or not — I care for you. Do your best, beautiful. We’ll get there together.